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There is time-tested simplicity and beauty that comes from boy meets girl.

Take Harry Burns played by Billy Crystal and Sally Albright portrayed by Meg Ryan. The 1989 romantic comedy was “When Harry Met Sally,” and the 12th time (or more) watching this film is just as good as the first time.

It took 12 years in screen play time to fully debate whether “men and women can ever be just friends,” the real question of this landmark film.

We all wondered, when would Harry and Sally finally realize they were more than friends, but actually they had morphed into soul mates who truly loved each other?

Why is Almost DailyBrett writing now about a movie filmed almost three decades ago? Keep in mind, “When Harry Met Sally” did not garner an Academy Award, and generated a decent gain at the box office (e.g., $92.8 million) compared to the production cost ($16 million).

Consider that Nora Ephron was nominated for “Best Original Screenplay,” and the movie was directed and produced by the legendary Rob Reiner.

Interposed with the travails and fragilities of Harry and Sally were commentaries by couples recalling how they met and how they fell in love.

For Almost DailyBrett the movie depicts the 1980s as a much better time. Perfect? No. There has always been issues between men and women since the Garden of Eden.

Having said that, the film celebrates boy meets girl, indirectly extols marriage, and does not make any aspersions about anyone else.

In 1989, we saw the Berlin Wall come down, freedom on the march in Eastern Europe foretelling the collapse of Communism, a new world order, and maybe even a “Peace Dividend.”

Some even dared to suggest it was “Morning in America.”

Compared to our present day culture of hatred, taken offense and grievance is Almost DailyBrett taking a risk by reflecting on the beauty of boy meets girl, a notion no one would even think about challenging three decades ago?

They say that we can’t go back. We can’t turn back the clock. All true.

However, we can reflect upon a time when we seemed to enjoy each other’s company, and even to fall in love and proudly exit the wedding ceremony as a happy brand new couple.

“Castrate Their Corpses And Feed Them to Swine? Yes.”

Where does all the hatred come from?

Georgetown Professor Christine Fair, why are you so unfair about millions and millions who were born white and male?

It seems by your loving tweet, you have no regard for or regrets about: “entitled white men,” “deserving miserable deaths while feminists laugh as they take their last gasps … “

And there is more: “castrate their corpses,”  and “feed them to the swine.”

As a Georgetown associate professor in security studies for America’s oldest Catholic university, are you practicing Christian virtues to literally millions, who were born through no fault of their own into their respective ethnicity and gender?

What happened to random acts of kindness and diversity?

And to Georgetown, which acknowledges your right to a private Twitter account, but states categorically that you were not speaking for the university, is a professor wishing for the horrific murder of innocent people consistent with “academic freedom?”

BTW, Twitter suspended Dr. Fair’s social media account. Does that mean that Georgetown has a lower standard for decency than Twitter?

Can Associate Professor Fair expect a slap on the wrist from Georgetown in her near future? Bet on it.

Are their absolutely no bounds and strictures for privileged professors, when it comes to vitriol and hatred against one group of fellow human beings?

“When Harry Met Sally”

There is absolutely no doubt there were issues between men and women back in the 1980s. Almost DailyBrett acknowledges it would be naïve to think all was well. The contentious Justice Brett Kavanaugh confirmation process revolves around what happened or did not occur during the … 1980s.

Having recognized this point, there are assertions of a better and more peaceful time in the 1980s. There is also the undeniable conviction that America was happier back then.

Your author has always celebrated men and women of goodwill growing old together and yearning for life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

Harry and Sally recognized their good fortune, fell in love, married three months later and conceivably lived happily ever after.

Wish all couples, ethnicities and genders could do the same.









Or how about: “Let’s just be friends?”

Kiss of death.

What did Billy Crystal say to Meg Ryan in When Harry Met Sally?


Men and women can’t be friends because…

“…The sex part always gets in the way…”

And “…The friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.”

Let’s come back to this contentious topic in just a smidge.

Recently, Almost DailyBrett took direct aim at the knuckle-dragging gender (“Men and Their Schlanges”) written before the revelations (no pun intended) about Rep. Anthony Weiner’s digitized wiener or in his case, weiner. The honorable congressman’s antics via social media served as an amplification of the points made in this humble blog, questioning whether men are actually as so many contend, slaves to their anatomy. Are we victims, cowards or both? Has the word “accountability” lost all of its meaning in this modern-day society?

Whattyathink Anthony? AH-Nold? Tiger? Bill? Al? Eliot? Dominique? John?…

As an equal opportunity social critic, Almost DailyBrett is now raising a few provocative (and maybe foolhardy) questions about the PR employed by the fairer gender. This blog discussed how women have effectively taken over the public relations profession (“PR’s Endangered Species”) and as a whole do a great job at softening images and are legendary with their eye for detail and creativity.

Then why is there not more creativity as it applies to romantic exit strategies, bidding adieu, adios, auf wiedersehen, sayonara to an unwanted male-of-the-species? Whatever happened to the carefully crafted and heartfelt “Dr. John” letter? Or maybe the even-more sophisticated face-to-face breakup?

In business the term “exit strategy” refers to the choices that lie before the management of start-ups: Pursue an Initial Public Offering (IPO); seek a larger company eager to make an acquisition or merger; or stay the course as a privately held company. So why don’t women have a similar array of options other than…

“It’s not you; it’s me” and “Let’s just be friends?”

Yes, there may be other termination phrases, but these two seem to be overly prevalent at this particular point in time. And sometimes they are even texted or e-mailed…which makes them even sweeter.

Let’s review: “It’s not you, it’s me.” Give me a break. If a man hears that phrase, he (in most cases) is smart enough to very well know it’s all about him. Yes, some of us may have been born at night, but we weren’t all born last night.

And “let’s just be friends?” If a male has been dating you, do you think he has been going through this exercise just so you can be pals?

And let’s say, he goes along with this swell idea…and then he secures a new girlfriend. Do you think she is going to want him to hang around his “friend,” who used to be his ex? (“Gee dear, why are you so upset? She’s just my friend…Well yes…We went out for six months…And ya, ya, we did sleep together…but there is nothing between us now…Oops, I shouldn’t have said it that way…”).


Back to the 1989 wisdom of Billy Crystal as Harry Burns and Meg Ryan as Sally Albright:

Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I’m saying is – and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form – is that men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That’s not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don’t.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don’t.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I’m having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I’m saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you’re saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail ’em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don’t want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn’t matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we’re not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That’s too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.

Now let’s suppose that Harry Burns is right that men and women really can’t be friends because of the “sex part.” If that is indeed the case, then why do women propose to a soon-to-be-ex or someone-with-no-chance that they should just settle on friendship? Is it because it sounds nice, a kind of warm-and-fuzzy coup de grace?

Maybe that is just the point. Many have lamented about the loss of civility in society, and quite possibly women are trying to take the sting out of these messages instead of just being straight forward. Personally, I respect stand-up men and stand-up women. I suspect that many others do as well.

Of course, there is something to be said for friends with “benefits.” Check out the trailer.




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