Tag Archive: Gender Gap

“No one will ever win the battle of the sexes; there’s too much fraternizing with the enemy.” – Henry Kissinger

To Almost DailyBrett, it seems that “too much fraternizing” has resulted in way-too-much trouble for way-too-many men and has spawned (no pun intended) a global movement: #MeToo.

Should your author apologize when he dares to admit that he is indeed stricken with the Y-Chromosome?

More to the point: Are men born guilty?

Do the adjectives “creepy” and “pervy” always modify the nouns, “man,” “men” and “male(s)”?

The Genesis for this blog goes far beyond the litany of once successful men, who are now-and-forever relegated to the sidelines of life. Did their actual/alleged “fraternizing” maybe or actually go too far to be dubbed sexual assault/harassment?

Reportedly, the foibles of men originate from the Garden of Eden to 20th Century high school/college activities right up to the present day.

John Wayne’s “A man is going to do what a man is going to do” or “Boys will be boys” has been ushered into oblivion. Responsibility and accountability should reign for everyone.

Far too many women have experienced/suffered boorish (and at times criminal) behavior by way too many men. The #MeToo movement is predicated on a basis of hurt and pain for literally millions of women.

Even though Almost DailyBrett can state with impunity the vast majority of men are not saintly and pure – even Jimmy Carter “lusted in his heart” on the hallowed pages of Playboy – they are not automatically guilty because they came into the world as baby boys.

Not every male is the “Midnight Rambler.” It just may seem that way listening to the 24-7-365 talking heads on the partisan networks.

And yet if it always seems to come down to “he said/she said.” Your author will always take the “over” for the female of the species. Men can have their careers ruined based upon a charge whether the allegations are true or not.

Remember Rolling Stone Magazine’s December 2014 report on the rape culture, targeting University of Virginia’s Phil Kappa Psi fraternity. The only problem with the story, it was determined to be 100 percent untrue. “A Rape On Campus” was fake news before “Fake News” became in vogue.

For the university and the fraternity, the damage has been done. Forget about due process.

Does it suck to be a male?

“I Don’t Hate White Men … “

“I don’t hate white men. Actually, I’m so personally and emotionally invested in changing the culture of toxic masculinity that we made a little white man of our own.” – Former Grad School Classmate

Almost DailyBrett’s graduate school classmate actually does not hate white men … Ahhh, that’s refreshing.

Congrats on attempting to raise a “little white man of your own.” Hopefully, you can relate to scores of other mothers, who tried to tame these testosterone infested/infected creatures.

Maybe, you will understand the agrarian-turned-industrial-turned-service economy is working against men. Can you assist in educating these tadpoles to be successful gentlemen of the 21st Century?

Even though men have a plethora of issues, contributing to a culture of toxic masculinity, one must admit that men play an un poquito role in promulgating the human race through the provision of essential nutrients.

Pointing to the obvious: Many men are faithful, bring home the bacon, help raise children and assist in building our society. Yes, these hombres do indeed exist.

And yet, if they are charged … If an accusation is leveled … If they become collateral damage in a political fight, their worlds will change for the worse in mere digital nanoseconds.

When popular media discuss a “gender gap,” the term is automatically assessed as to only include the gulf between women and men. What about the other way around? Irrelevant?

Not so fast. According to national 2016 general election exit surveys, Hillary Clinton won the women’s vote, 54-41 percent, a 13 percent margin. Game, set match?

Oops, men favored Donald Trump over Hillary, 52-41 percent, an 11 percent margin. Misogyny?

Wait: White women voted for Trump over Hillary, 52-41 percent.

Maybe, the issue as noted by University of Virginia Political Science Professor Larry Sabato was the presence on the ballot of a “particular woman” with a ton of baggage.

The 2016 result does not preclude a women someday serving as America’s chief of state (see Teresa May in Britain and Angela Merkel im Deutschland).

Almost DailyBrett must reinforce here and now that an undefined number of bad Herren have inflicted pain and suffering on more women than those who actually courageously reported these transgressions.

Each and every case is inexcusable.

And yet to mothers raising male babies, toddlers, kids, teenagers, young men, these males are not guilty by birth. Agree?

The automatic presumption of guilt is never fair. America is governed by the Rule of Law. That basic precept applies to everyone, including those with testosterone coarsening through their bodies.







Wasn’t the 1992 Woody Harrelson, Wesley Snipes movie actually titled, “White Men Can’t Jump?”


That’s right, but one could easily substitute “Aging Pale Males” for “White Men” and the message would be exactly the same. Now what if you substituted a minority group, females or those of alternative lifestyle for “White Men” in the title of the movie? We all know the answer to this question and we don’t need to go there.

You may be thinking right now that this particular blog post is nothing more and nothing less than mid-life crisis sour grapes. After all, Almost DailyBrett is written by a follicly challenged pale male with more than a few miles on his personal odometer (even though the fire has not gone out).

Haven’t white men had more than their share of disproportionate glory (i.e., the first 43 POTUS’, even all of the presidents with wigs and beards, and all of those who have walked on the moon)? They have. Does that now mean it is high time to even the score and consign pale males to the ash heap of history?

Go ahead make fun and tell jokes about pale males (and lawyers too), you can do so with impunity.

When the political talking heads discuss the “gender gap,” does it ever relate to one candidate’s subpar performance in securing the votes of pale males?

A recent CBS New York Times poll demonstrated that President Barack Obama was six points in front of former Massachusetts Governor Mitt Romney among women (49-43 percent), but Romney held an exact same lead (49-43 percent) over the president among men. And yet the article in its lead paragraph assessed the impact of reproductive health, contraception and career choices on the gender gap: all hot button issues for women.

There is even a concerted national effort to marginalize one party and equate it to being the party of the pale males…as though that is an unforgiveable sin.

Certainly there is still a sizeable “gender gap” when it comes to equal pay for equal work between men and women, and the female of the species has every reason to be hacked off. The Public Relations Society of America’s (PRSA) 2010 Work, Life & Gender Survey reported that the average annual income for men in public relations was about $120K. The figure for women was about $72K, even though women dominate the ranks of the PR industry.

The public policy question that must be posed is does society effectively respond to decades of sexism and racism in this country (and others) by permanently casting aside a particular demographic group? Do two wrongs ever equate to a right? Is Affirmative Action seen as Negative Action by pale males, at least in private? Does Affirmative Action mean that aging pale males need not apply?

As an aging pale male, I have been asked to fill out dreaded optional “demographic profiles” for jobs. Let’s see: Male or female…darn, male. Vet or non-vet? Ah, non-vet? African-American, Asian, Hispanic, Native American, Pacific-Islander or…ehh…white? Can I check Pacific Islander since I have been to Hawaii a half a dozen times? I even channel surfed Hawaii Five 0.

How does one counteract being north of the young/old Mendoza Line (e.g., north of 50) with a pale complexion and that annoying y-chromosome that requires shaving your face every morning?

One of the reasons given to not hiring aging pale males is the overqualified syndrome. Yours truly just received his Master of Arts degree in communication and society from the University of Oregon School of Journalism and Communication. Should I be proud of this accomplishment or should I be fearful that I just made myself even more overqualified? And if I actually decide to be the first person in my family to earn a doctorate is that curtains for any and all chances to ever being hired again in my life?

Hey, what if I try to dumb down my curriculum vitae…err resume? Can I possibly come across as less experienced, less costly and more appealing for a perspective employer? How’s that for counterintuitive out-of-the-box thinking?

Even if I succeed in making myself less overqualified, I still cannot change (other than sex reassignment surgery) who I am. For better or for worse (I fear the latter), I am an aging pale male. I am learning to deal with this albatross around my neck and hoping at some time the pendulum will swing a tad in the other direction (maybe just enough for me), even though I doubt it will happen in my lifetime. All of this discussion harkens back to some key questions for aging pale males.

What do you call 500 aging pale males in the bottom of the ocean? A good start.

What’s the difference between a dead aging pale male and a dead skunk on the freeway? The skid marks in front of the skunk (Sigh).





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